The truth is, most friendships, relationships and even workplace colleagues nearly always come to an end — as in the natural circle of life. For a large part, the nature of life is constantly changing. And change can be a real pain in the butt to say the very least. It can be totally devastating. You can stake all of your certainty, comfort and security on one thing which you feel so certain about — then poof overnight something happens (e.g redundancy, divorce, death, car accident) and that comfort is changed forever. Comfort is all about framing. Putting something through a different lens to view in a different way. For example, that terrible job wasn’t actually that horrible, it taught you patience and helped you hone in on your passion. It taught resilience and the importance of showing up. For me personally, when relationships dissolves, it isn’t always a devastating loss, they can be an amazing experience for which I was so fortunate to have in the first place. To this very day, I can put friends, acquaintances, travel buddies, exes, business partners, clients, colleagues all into one of these three categories.
REASON – When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be there.
SEASON – Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real.
LIFETIME – LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.