Moods can be illegible in written form, so predictably, the way we communicate these days is almost exclusively via text messages, and that can seed a lot of chaos in our relationships. But, at the same time, texting can also improve our unions. What do your texting habits mean for your love life? Research can help you make a few predictions. Do you and your partner have similar texting styles? Do you treat your phone as crutch to carry you through boring situations? Do you feel anxious without it, uncomfortably unaware of what’s going on? Or would you prefer to turn it off and stash it in a drawer for a few days? Do you find yourself texting the hard things it’s awkward to say in person? All of it says something, according to science.
Although many of us lean on text messaging for the majority of our exchanges, most people still perceive texting as a low-impact form of communication and that can create sticky and strange situations. So, what does science have to say about how texting affects our love lives? Here are two scientific facts.
Similar Texting Styles Make For Happier Couples – People whose texting habits aligned with their partners are usually happier, regardless of their messages’ content: Whether they bantered or exchanged sappy missives or even undertook larger relationship issues, studies show that those who have similar texting styles have higher levels of relationship satisfaction than couples who approached texting differently.
Excessive Texting Can Be A Sign Of Other, Underlying Issues – According to some studies, constantly tapping on our phones can signal loneliness or boredom, and ultimately lead to feelings of alienation. Or, it can help us maintain close connections with loved ones. Check-ins with significant others and friends aren’t problematic in and of themselves — indeed, the notifications give us little dopamine boosts — but become risky when we start treating them as escape routes. Texting all the time can also come from being lonely or bored, and that can lead to isolation and alienation.