Not every love story can be a fairy tale. Although most of us want to believe that when we find our Prince Charming (or Princess) that we’ll easily ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. But for most couples, that simply doesn’t happen. With the divorce rate around 50%, it is clear that most people don’t know how to create and maintain healthy relationships and marriages. If you think about it, that’s not very surprising. I mean, it’s not like any of us had a class in school called Love and Marriage 101. In fact, most of us never learned any life skills at all, let alone relationship skills. So, it’s no wonder most couples are floundering out there and don’t know how to save themselves. To make a relationship work it requires teamwork and being there for each other. You need to pickup on habits of couples in strong relationships. You need to be with your partner through both the good times and the bad. Be there to look on the bright side of things with the person you love. At the same time, when things aren’t so bright you need to be someone who can also sit with them in the dark. As their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, you need to be the one who lets them know everything will be okay and the two of you will get through whatever issues there are as a couple. So, whether you are embarking on a new relationship, or trying to fix a 50-year-old marriage, here are some tips for you.
Empathize with each other – One main problem with relationships is that most people only see their own point of view. It’s inevitable that couples will have disagreements. But that doesn’t mean it has to damage your relationship. So, in order to really understand each other, you have to listen to and accept the other person’s point of view. Everyone deserves to be understood.
Have date night – One of the sad things about relationships as the years go on is that people forget to date each other. They think the work is done because they’re so comfortable with one another. But sometimes life, and kids, get in the way of keeping the romance alive. It’s essential that you go out on date nights so you can consistently keep connecting.
Talk about finances and plan a budget – Money is one of the top things that break couples up. Maybe one of you is a spender, and the other is a saver. That’s a problem! It will cause a lot of disagreements and strife. So, talk about how you handle money. Come to a compromise, make a budget and stick to it.
Don’t be selfish – It’s easy to focus on yourself and what YOU want. But it’s not so easy to put your needs aside sometimes and focus on what your partner wants. Any quality relationship involves compromise. You can’t be #1 all the time. And if you want to be, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. You should stay single for the rest of your life.