I’ve spoken with several divorced couples over the years, and many of them say the same thing to me. They said when you go through a divorce you see the other person at their absolute worst, whereas in a new relationship, you have yet to discover that. Giving your heart to someone is not something you should do without feeling certain they aren’t going to crush it. Nobody wants to be reading the hacks for getting over a heartbreak and that’s exactly why we should be careful with whom we decide to eventually give our hearts to. In this article I’m going to discuss four things you need to know before you give your heart to someone. Being in love is great and if you’re happily married then consider taking a moment to send a quick I love you text over to that special someone who owns your heart. For those who aren’t, don’t rush into a relationship just because you want someone to love you. Wait for the right one who will take your heart, cherish it and love it forever!
Your Heart Has Value – It really does, so only share it with people who are, at the very least, kind, funny and honest. Those are simply non-negotiable. Be careful not to place your heart into the hands of anyone who gets enjoyment out of embarrassing you, or treats you as if you are undeserving of love or otherwise leaves you feeling worse about yourself.
Trust Your Friends – If a friends instincts are to protect you from pain, listen to them. IF the new person in your life insists you leave the people who have known and loved you for years, turn around and run the other direction. Here’s an example: You’re enjoying happy hour at a local bar with friends and your date walks into the room. Does your heart sink or soar? If a grin appears on your face before you could even think to smile, life is how it should be. If your neck tenses up and you find yourself thinking of possible offenses, you’ve placed your heart with someone who doesn’t deserve it.
We’re All Allowed Some Insecurities – Anytime you give someone your heart, you might discover that you have certain insecurities you never knew about. You might notice that ones you thought you had under control are coming up like snakes wanting to poison your relationship. Most of our hearts have been damaged at least once before, but try to hand yours over somewhat repaired instead of still bleeding. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect and nobody should expect you to be! But the less broken you can be when trusting your happiness to another, the healthier it will be for both of you. We pick better people when we feel good about ourselves.
Odds Are, You Will Get Hurt – I’m sorry, but it does happen. Why do you think we’ve seen it so many times before in movies and books? The fact is, kind people have cruel moments. Honest people trip up. Smart people make mistakes. It happens to everyone, so all you can really do is your best.