Past research has shown that feeling good about yourself can instantly make you more attractive to others. As you love yourself, life becomes less burdensome and relationships become both easier and more spontaneous. People who are happy don’t spend time second-guessing what other people might be thinking about them, or where they stand in the various relationships they have. When you have internal sturdiness deep within your core, you can easily adapt to the inevitable ups and downs that come with relationships. Listed below are four ways anyone can make themselves more attractive in relationships.
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously – Remember, you don’t have to be perfect to have solid relationships and love in your life. In fact, it’s being imperfect that puts people at ease. There is a kind of intimacy that takes hold, a sense that you can be open with someone you love because they are being open with you. That’s why it’s important to regularly connect with supportive and non-toxic people. Generally speaking though, most of the time and with most people, the negative sentiments others might communicate or imply about you are not rigid insults to your character. Don’t give added attention to perceived slights. Let the small stuff slide off your back because it really isn’t important when looking at the big picture. When faced with valid or invalid criticism, see if you can laugh at yourself or make a joke. In the end, others don’t define you no matter what they say.
Do The Right Thing – If you struggle with self-esteem, chance are you’re seeking the approval of others. You are covertly on the lookout for praise, a sense that you belong, and are doing the “right” thing. When doing this you’re not actually thinking about the bigger picture, because you’re being too focused on yourself. A busy quest of seeking validation from others probably won’t bring it. Instead, this sign of insecurity is a mistake that might actually push people away. Focus on doing the right thing for yourself, for others, and society at large. Be generous to the people in your life and to those who have less. Listen to them, support them, and give them your present attention. See if this brings you validation.
Live For Yourself – Anyone who has a sense of purpose and meaning is compelling because they exude strength. Constantly thinking about how others might be judging you wastes precious time that could be spent getting everything you want out of life. Just ask yourself: What brings me happiness? What are the things you would like to accomplish in life? What brings you a feeling of well-being and contentment? Quiet the voice inside your head that second-guesses your choices and live for yourself.
Take Care Of Yourself – Self-acceptance is a practice and it’s not always easy. One common misconception is that people who are really attractive don’t have insecurities. This couldn’t be further from the truth. If you’re human, you’re going to doubt yourself from time to time – and that’s only natural. What sets attractive people apart is how they deal with their insecurities. People who are highly attractive don’t resist their insecurities or condemn themselves for their flaws; instead, they turn toward their insecurities and embrace them. They accept them.
Claiming all parts of yourself – including the flaws and unattractive parts – is the ultimate act of self-love. By both accepting and embracing all of who you are, you will naturally inspire other people to embrace all of you as well. Once you’re able to appreciate yourself and embrace all of who you are, you will inspire others to treat you with the same qualities, too. Now that’s what becoming highly attractive is all about.