Relationships can bring either mutual growth and happiness, or the feeling of suffocation and debilitation after a while. All relationships serve their purpose, whether you stay with someone for a few weeks or for an entire lifetime. No matter what type of relationship you’re in – it should support, encourage, uplift, and challenge you to become a better person. Don’t let any relationship drain you of energy and make you feel bad about yourself. If you have to sacrifice any of the following things for your relationship then it might be time for you to re-evaluate what value that person really adds to your life.
1. Dignity – Always make sure to give your dignity the first priority – no matter what. On some small occasions you can risk, but just up to a limit, may be to save your relationship but it should not be always you doing that. It should be on the two-way road.
2. Independence – Being in a relationship can be a wonderful, loving experience. It’s always important to maintain your independence and resist morphing into one mutual identity. See your friends; enjoy interests that don’t always include your partner and keep a separate bank account for yourself. Independence is healthy and always helps you feel you are in the relationship because you want to be not because you need to be.
3. Happiness – If your partner drags you down and makes you feel crappy about yourself and life, then it’s time to call quits on the relationship. You need someone who will match your vibration and bring vibrant energy into your life, not someone who leeches the energy from your life. Of course, he or she won’t always feel completely blissful, but if they can’t seem to find happiness on their own or offer it to you at all, then let them go, they need to focus on inner healing, not a relationship.
4. Fun – Do you enjoy the company of your partner? Do you laugh, play, act like kids, and try new things together? A relationship always comes with disagreements from time to time, but even after a long time of being together, you still should be able to do activities that bring out the inner child in both of you. You should never give up fun in a relationship – without fun, life can become pretty mundane, and it will only cause tension if you remain with someone who can’t relax and let loose every once in a while.
5. Dreams – An ideal partnership consists of two people on the same mission, supporting each other every step of the way. Or, just two people who have different dreams, but still encourage and cheer each other on. If you don’t have someone on the same path as you or even someone who has your back, don’t hesitate to leave the relationship. What you want out of life makes up a large portion of who you are, and you don’t need someone who dismisses or bashes your goals.