Even if it feels like you know your partner inside and out, the funny thing about being in a long-term relationship is that you’re always learning new things about each other. It could be something as small as discovering they hate lemon in their water, or something as important as finding out about their desire to learn how to surf. If you love your partner, any new tidbit of information about them will seem like an exciting revelation. So, what are some of the different things you should know about your partner? Aside from the obvious, like their view on getting married or having kids, there are several little things which you can ask your partner to help you get closer. Listed below are 9 different things you should know about your partner.
Things You Should Know About Your Partner
1. What Their Favorite Meal Is – After a long and stressful day, there’s nothing better than being surprised with your favorite comfort food. If you know your partner loves cookie dough ice cream, you can put an emergency pint in your freezer and whip it out when they’re having a crappy day. Know what their favorite meals, cuisines and restaurants are because being able to surprise them from time to time will surely make them happy!
2. What Their Bathroom Habits Are – This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to know whether your partner crinkles or folds their toilet paper – it simply means you should have an idea of their hygiene habits so the two of you can work out a ‘bathroom schedule’ for busy mornings. Know your partner’s bathroom habits and routines, then create a schedule that accommodates both of you.
3. How They Want To Spend Holidays – If you’ve been with your partner through several Thanksgivings and Christmases, you might already have your holiday routine down to a science. If not, it’s important to talk about how you would both like to spend certain holidays – and how to handle any unruly family members. Couples should discuss how they want to spend their holidays visits with relatives, especially if there might be drama associated with certain people. Both partners should be in accord as to how they will handle any situation that arises and do so as a unified front.
4. What Their Weekly Routine Is – You don’t have to sync your Google Calendars, although you can if you’d like, but knowing what your partners schedule is like from week to week will help you better manage your time together. If you know what time they need to wake up in the morning, when they usually come home this will help you both manage your time together, and your own personal ‘me’ time.
5. What Days Are Special To Them – You should already know important dates like your partner’s birthday and your anniversary. But, making an effort to memorize other dates which are important to them (but not necessarily to you) will make them love you even more. Taking the time to remember dates such as their children’s birthday (if they have them) and other family members’ special days will help bond both you and your partner.
6. Their Favorite Shows & Movies – If you’re a couple whose go-to activity is watching television together, there’s no doubt you already know each other’s favorite shows and movies. But you can also ask about any long-forgotten favorites they love, or about any of their other “favorites.” It’s important to know what your partner likes – their favorite color, sweater, cologne, type of music, movies and television programs.
7. How They Envision Their Future Family – If you want to build a life with your other half, it’s important to have a clear idea of how they envision their future family dynamic. It might seem like everyone out there is on the fast track to marriage and kids, but that’s not always the case. You should know whether or not your partner wants kids and how they envision the future dynamics of the family unit. Are they planning to continue to work while you stay home or vice versa?
8. What They Believe In – Whether they’re super religious or believe in no religion at all, it’s crucial to know what your partner’s beliefs are so that you’ll be able to make sure your beliefs are compatible. Understanding what their core beliefs are gives you the opportunity to see if your beliefs are aligned as this can ultimately be a deal breaker.
9. If They Have Any Debt – It’s not always fun to discuss finances with your partner, but if you’re planning to build a life together, it’s important to be on the same page about your individual and combined debts. You want to be clear if you are getting into a long-term relationship with someone who has a lot of debt. This could affect how and where they live, the disposable income they have for travel and adventure, and how long it will take them to dig out of their debt. You also want to know how they accrued their debt and if they have spending issues. If you have a future together, how you live your life will be impacted by their debt.