When it comes to planning your upcoming wedding, there are certain things that are sure to be unique specifically for your big day. Similarly, there is also a list of things that are universal to almost every wedding. I once had a very interesting conversation with someone who was a wedding planner. The man said he always used to ask newlyweds after their big day what they would have changed about their event if they could. Some people would answer that they wouldn’t change a singe thing, while others talked about the things that they really regretted. I learned that wedding planning mistakes come in all different shapes and sizes. Some are mistakes that you could easily predict, like watching out for hidden costs. However, others aren’t so easy to see until well after the mistake has been made. This article was written based on some of the very important tips which that event planner laid out for me during our conversation. Below are eight of the most common decisions newlyweds will often make, and then regret later on. If you’re planning to get married soon (or know someone who is) then read these wedding planning tips with your partner and discuss each part during the planning process. It will save you lots of time and heartache later on!
1. They relied on tradition – When brides are planning their wedding, they often try to recall all the traditions needed for the event: to order doves, pick the right song for the first dance, and so on. The problem with this is that these decisions are based on I should and not I want, and that’s not right. Following tradition might be great to an extent, but don’t take it too far. Some people are really old fashioned and after the wedding some of those couples regret that they didn’t try anything new during their wedding because they wanted to follow old customs. Don’t be afraid to try something new at your wedding, there is still plenty of room for traditional things as well!
2. They spent too much time on speeches – Lots of wedding speeches simply take too long. Devote a certain amount of time to congratulatory speeches and leave it at that. There is no need to have everyone in the room give a speech. Remember, if you decide to hand the microphone over to your uncle for no reason, you may end up falling asleep while he’s recalling your childhood adventures.
3. They didn’t hire a wedding planner – Several couples believe they have plenty of time for planning and won’t need to worry about being in a hurry. Honestly, that’s just an illusion. To make sure your special day goes exactly as planned (while also having it match your vision), remember one simple rule: Act here and now. Wedding planning is extremely important and hiring the proper wedding planner is one way to make sure nothing needs to be sacrificed on your special day.
4. They had way too much alcohol – The amount of alcohol can affect the atmosphere in the room. Remember, all it takes is one single guest who can’t control themselves to spoil your entire event. If you want to create a warm, romantic and exciting atmosphere at your wedding, choose low alcohol drinks. Instead of going with an open bar, you could do one of several other things: cash bar, beer and wine only, signature cocktails, limited time open bar, mocktails, or any combination of those that works for you!
5. They invited too many children – I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the same story from a parent – His 6-year-old daughter came up to him and asked, “We’ve been here for several hours. When are we going to eat the cake and go home?” He had to tell her he didn’t know, and that was just the beginning. Children can get tired pretty quickly during weddings and then they start to complain. They get bored rather easily and require lots of attention. If there’s no opportunity to have the event without children, book something for kids entertainment in order to avoid awkward situations.
6. They had an outdoor wedding – It’s never uncommon for a couple to think the weather is going to be great on their wedding day. But, the weather also tends to have its own plans. The hot sun or heavy winds might spoil your look. Insects could also be a problem by wanting to join your celebration, while rain obviously stands to ruin everything. These reasons are why it’s recommended that you take your photos outside, but then hold your ceremony inside. If outside is the only option, always come up with a separate plan for bad weather!
7. They didn’t take a honeymoon afterward – Sometimes the wedding preparation takes up so much time and money it can be hard to take the honeymoon afterwards. That’s not recommended, though. You need some rest and time to enjoy being together afterwards, so a honeymoon is important. Be sure to plan a fun and incredible honeymoon!
8. They didn’t celebrate their wedding at all – Your wedding will be one of the most important events in your life. It’s your day, the two of you are the heroes, directors, and scriptwriters. It will be the only time you get to experience all of the emotions that surround getting married.